The Book

We want people in our lives we can trust, confide in, and turn to when life gets tough—people who not only appreciate our gifts but are also fully aware of our flaws and failures, and want to be with us anyway.

The good news is that a deeper, more meaningful relationship with your friends, kids, coworkers, spouse —even God—is not only attainable, it’s what you were made for!

In I’d Like You More if You Were More like Me, best-selling author John Ortberg shows us how to overcome obstacles and create the kind of deep, meaningful relationships we all crave—with God and with others. You’ll learn

  • How to recognize and respond to bids for connection
  • How to get past your fear of intimacy
  • How to sidestep common relationship pitfalls
  • How to make God an active part of your everyday life

Whether you’re a man or a woman; whether you’re the life of the party or a wallflower; whether you’re a thinker or a feeler or a category not yet known to social science, you were made for connection.

Church Resources

Church Connection Kit

This complete kit includes a Member Connect Guide, a Leader Connect Guide, a copy of the trade book I’d Like You More if You Were More like Me, and an access card to downloadable video sessions with stories and encouragement from John Ortberg. Church leaders also receive exclusive access to bonus online content such as videos, sermon outlines, presentation templates, editable evites to use for special events, and more!

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Member Connect Guide

Small-group members will learn how to connect on a deeper level with the people God has placed in their lives, both inside and outside the group, as they grow closer to the One who made them for relationships.

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Leader Connect Guide

With space to jot down reminders, observations, and prayers, this six-session Leader Connect Guide equips the reader to lead a small group through Ortberg’s book and the accompanying downloadable video sessions. It also encourages leaders with facilitating tips, easy-to-lead discussion questions, and simple exercises to guide a group past awkwardness and on to meaningful relationships.

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Small Group Resources

Small Group Connection Kit

The Small Group Connection Kit contains a Member Connect Guide, a Leader Connect Guide, an access code to stream all six video sessions, and ideas on using technology for the benefit of building deeper relationships. It also offers digital resources such as recipes, icebreakers, and inspiring images and quotes to post on social media.

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Mobile App

The Get Real, Get Close app lets you take compelling content from John Ortberg’s new small group experience with you wherever you go. Based on his newly released book, I’d Like You More If You Were More Like Me, the app includes written introductions, teaching videos, prayers and scripture to help you create more meaningful community. The app is available for free on the iTunes store.

Free on iTunes